One of my friends has been feeling pretty sad lately in her relationship.Apparently, she not only got a great paying job with benefits, but she received a shiny, new car compliments of her parents. I was very happy for my friend, because she worked hard to get those things, but it seemed as if her bf wasn't so happy.
At first, he congratulated her, but then she said she noticed him becoming more distant. She said he even started to resent her. Whenever she offered to pick him up from his job, he refused. He even stop calling her for periods at a time coming up with bogus explainations about his attitude.
My friend didn't know what to do. She wants to believe deep down that he cares about her, but she's starting to realize his jealousy is getting out of hand. One day she asked," The thing that hurts the most is that if the tables were turned, I would never treat him like he's treating me. So what's his problem?" All I could do was sigh.
How do you deal with a bf or gf that's jealous of your accomplishments?
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wow. i thought significant others were suppose to be happy for your accomplishments? =/
@bigaslives@xanga - Ditto that! If you truly love someone I'd think you'd be happy to see them do well in life.
@bigaslives@xanga - My thoughts exactly!
You'd think in the 21st century things would be different.. Alas, the old stereotypes are still very much alive. :( I guess looking at Nick Lachey & Jessica Simpson says it all. I guess it makes the guys feel emasculated? They feel like they're supposed to be the breadwinners & be able to provide for their girls. bleh~
I don't know what your friend can do but I do know she should be proud of what she's got accomplished so far & not let her boyfriend's attitude bring her down. Although that's easier said than done.. =T
The way he's acting is really childish, but it's only natural that he's overly jealous. If he's somebody who hasn't accomplished much, and has WAY less than what his girlfriend has, I think he has a right to feel inferior to her. Maybe the underlying problem is that his girlfriend is very involved in her own life. She has this fruitful life and everything is going great, but is she helping her boyfriend or supporting him? I have a feeling your friend doesn't understand the reasons why he's jealous, and your friend may be too absorbed in her own life to realize that her SO may feel deprived and empty. He may feel like she's only interested in making her own life the greatest it can be, and that she doesn't care about making his life better.
I know what I just said may not make complete sense because, as an individual, we are in charge of our own lives and we, ourselves, should be the one taking action for what we want. But I'm just saying.. he may feel left out. That's how I see it. But he should try to communicate with her about this matter instead of being such a bitch with that attitude. He should know that avoiding the problem won't make it go away.